Rebekka’s Blog
Thoughts on parenting our children, ourselves, and humanity
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Parent Q and A: It's potty time...or is it?
There's no one right way to become diaper free, and only your daughter knows the timeframe on this one.
Recommended children's books: Sibling stories
No book can ever make the process of welcoming a new child into your family completely seamless and free of pain. However, storytelling is a great way to help your child (and you!) navigate this monumental transition with a sense of the many feelings and possibilities that can accompany baby's arrival. Here are some children's books my family and I enjoy about this remarkable time of life.
What is trauma? or, That time I accidentally locked my kid in the car
The difference between a trauma and a difficult experience is how it ends.
Parent Q and A: Two kids, one parent, and a screen
What's the best option when you're solo with two kids under 2 in the "witching hour," and you and your partner disagree about turning on a little Sesame Street ?
Parent Q and A: Out-of-bounds babysitter
When the babysitter seems inappropriately affectionate with the baby, what's a concerned parent to do?
Parent Q and A: Curly hair, don't care
When your beautiful biracial child starts making self-deprecating comments about her curly hair, what's a concerned parent to do?
Family is [not] magic
I thought we were doing a pretty good job of having one of those silent passive-aggressive fights. One that was way better and less impactful on our young daughter than an all-out, down to the mat scream-fest.I was terribly, terribly wrong.
You can celebrate anything you want: Reconciling our "December differences" for families of many cultures and faiths
Every person has roots; celebrate yours, your spouse's, and whichever of humanity's move and inspire you.Perhaps most importantly, know why you do what you do. My dear friends, you are free to choose. Feel empowered. You can have your latkes and eat them too.
Thanks, but no thanks: Dealing with unsolicited parenting advice graciously and non-defensively
Ah, the season of awkward family encounters. That annual occasion when well-meaning parents, grandparents, in-laws, uncles, and third cousins twice removed all get together to make stilted conversation and offer unsolicited advice on how to raise your little ones. The following three-step approach will help you respond productively to intrusive and unwanted advice on parenting - happy everything to those who celebrate!
Carrying Life
Got some news over here at Living in Captivity - check out my guest post for Mother Squad to find out what it is!Read the post here: http://blog.mothersquad.com/carrying-life/
The Body Beautiful: How my preschooler taught me to love myself
"I don't like my body!" My then-2-year-old screamed.I'm pretty fearless with her, mind you, and it takes a lot for anything she says or does to faze me. But this one stopped my mind for a moment, and in that moment, I raced into the past and ahead to the future.
DIY Deluxe Car Sickness Kit
If you're anything like me, you've woefully underprepared, again and again, when your child has gotten sick in their carseat. After a holiday cookie-tossing bonanza, we decided to adult a little harder around here and create a go-bag with all of our carseat cleaning needs handy. We pass on the wisdom conferred by our inexperience to you.
What love smells like: On bathing with my daughter
My last bath with my daughter is coming one day, but I don’t think it will be tonight.
"Who's a pretty bird?" How Cookie the penguin helps me be a better parent
As we say in Yiddish, "People make plans and God laughs."I'd like to append that idiom to read, "People caring for small children make plans and God grabs a jumbo tub of popcorn."
When you're brave enough to take a toddler out to eat: 7 steps to preserve your family's sanity
Small children suck at dining in restaurants. But if the restaurant deities are whispering to you and you simply must heed their call, here's some advice to help you navigate the experience with your spirit and dignity (mostly) intact.
Tiny humans are on acid
Small children live in the present moment, in the now. They are in deep, laser focused, inextricably tangled up in their object of engagement. Don't let that little one bogart all the wonder - take a toke next time it passes around. Join that magical mystery tour and strive to see the world purely, as through a child's, once more.
The digital village: Saving our children (and ourselves) from the perils of screen time
Humans have largely lost their villages, replacing them with screens and the stories they tell. To update the old saying, it takes a village to raise both children and parents alike. Who - or what - is in your village?
"I'm not sharing!" Fostering children's authentic ownership and joyful generosity
The season of giving is upon us, for certain, but the spirit of generosity is alive and well year-round. As parents and caregivers, we can help our children as they experience all kinds of feelings, among them the joy that comes from authentic generosity. When we strengthen their hearts and souls, we strengthen our own in turn.